Bob: "One of the things you can do - as a parent and I wish we'd done with Robert - was curtailed his privileges of driving the car he was driving that evening after we had learned of two incidents of underage drinking in the year or two before the accident."

Words Can Work: "Why do parents do that, Bob - turn a blind eye so often?"  

"Because they want their children to like them. They want to be friendly with their kids. They want to have fun with their children. Obviously, I shared that desire as well.  Robert is... a great companion, fisherman, hunter, and sportsman. We love our children for who they are.  It's hard to take on the more substantive role of rule maker as opposed to friend. But you have to. That's part of the responsibility of keeping your children safe."